We all have those gloomy days when things begin to go awry bringing about a delusion of negative thoughts on all that have gone wrong in our lives so far. These are moments very unique to each person and sharing them depends on each of us. A good night's sleep does make us feel better, actually a lot better the next day, but deep down, the thought is still there, waiting like a volcano to erupt when the pressure is right. Though we pretend to have addressed and resolved these emotional issues, we just need a little low to remind ourselves of reasons to hate oneself, pulling us into the vortex of never-ending feeling of guilt - how we screwed up in studies, how something that we did spoiled the relationship with someone we loved, how we could have done way better had we really tried hard, and the list goes on.
One effective way that we could resolve our guilt is by forgiving ourselves. How else do you think that kids stay happy all the time? Even the biggest worries for them like spilling milk or food doesn't occupy their minds much because they forget and forgive themselves, even without their knowledge. As we grow up, we grow more conscious of what we do and forget the forgiving-self part, though we speak a lot about forgiving others. Yes, you read it right. You need to forgive yourselves to have that peace of mind.
Forgiving doesn't mean forgiving to commit more mistakes, but to learn from mistakes and be a better person, working towards a more meaningful and contented life. We spend too much time brooding over the past, about the things that might have happened had we acted in some supposedly ideal ways.
Remember that time maybe you borrowed a pen/pencil from the student next to you and never returned. This incident never troubles your senses because somewhere deep down your thoughts, you have forgiven yourself dismissing it as a mean act you did in your childhood. Think along the same lines, forgive yourself for the chocolates/sweets you sneaked in at your grandparents homes, which keep telling you that is your Karma for putting on those ugly flabs; forgive yourself for your rude behavior with a friend who might not even remember it, because you weren't as mature then as you are now; forgive yourself, to simply not get rid of any self-imposed guilt, but to take off some burden weighing down on your shoulders, because 'what has happened has happened and you cannot change it now, the only thing you can do is change the way how the past affects your future - positive or negative, its all what we choose'.
So, put a little thought into my introspection. Lets celebrate the season of harvest (Sankaranthi) by turning away from the darkness of our own delusions and allowing the bright sunshine of acceptance and forgiveness brighten our lives with every living moment.
தை பிறந்தாள் வழி பிறக்கும் - 'Thai Piranthaal Vazhi Pirakkum'. I really wish this new beginning of the auspicious month of Thai brings new beginnings to all that is good in your lives.
இனிய பொங்கல் நல்வாழ்த்துக்கள்!
-Yamini
One effective way that we could resolve our guilt is by forgiving ourselves. How else do you think that kids stay happy all the time? Even the biggest worries for them like spilling milk or food doesn't occupy their minds much because they forget and forgive themselves, even without their knowledge. As we grow up, we grow more conscious of what we do and forget the forgiving-self part, though we speak a lot about forgiving others. Yes, you read it right. You need to forgive yourselves to have that peace of mind.
Forgiving doesn't mean forgiving to commit more mistakes, but to learn from mistakes and be a better person, working towards a more meaningful and contented life. We spend too much time brooding over the past, about the things that might have happened had we acted in some supposedly ideal ways.
Remember that time maybe you borrowed a pen/pencil from the student next to you and never returned. This incident never troubles your senses because somewhere deep down your thoughts, you have forgiven yourself dismissing it as a mean act you did in your childhood. Think along the same lines, forgive yourself for the chocolates/sweets you sneaked in at your grandparents homes, which keep telling you that is your Karma for putting on those ugly flabs; forgive yourself for your rude behavior with a friend who might not even remember it, because you weren't as mature then as you are now; forgive yourself, to simply not get rid of any self-imposed guilt, but to take off some burden weighing down on your shoulders, because 'what has happened has happened and you cannot change it now, the only thing you can do is change the way how the past affects your future - positive or negative, its all what we choose'.
So, put a little thought into my introspection. Lets celebrate the season of harvest (Sankaranthi) by turning away from the darkness of our own delusions and allowing the bright sunshine of acceptance and forgiveness brighten our lives with every living moment.
தை பிறந்தாள் வழி பிறக்கும் - 'Thai Piranthaal Vazhi Pirakkum'. I really wish this new beginning of the auspicious month of Thai brings new beginnings to all that is good in your lives.
இனிய பொங்கல் நல்வாழ்த்துக்கள்!
-Yamini
