Express yourself and make someone's day!

This is probably my blog after quite a long time. So many thoughts run through the mind to be put in words but in vain, similar to the 'kanmani anbodu' song from Guna, 'Unnai enni paarkaiyil kavithai kottuthe, athai ezhutha ninaikayil vaarthai muttuthey'. After many failed attempts of blogging, resulting in a rise in the drafts, I finally complete one for now and hope it continues. 

Life has definitely got busier with increased work loads; but it is definitely worth it when we take time to remember the old pals with whom we shared some really memorable moments. Though they might not be  very close to us, we could mail or ping them asking about their whereabouts and cherishing some moments as and when we remember. The happiness which the person on the receiving end feels when suddenly during one busy day our message or mail pops in, can just not be explained. It makes them feel closer to us and the relationship becomes stronger and will last longer. An analogy would be the applying of oil to the hinges of a door now and then to avoid the creaking sound resulting without maintenance. It lasts longer and isnt time consuming as well but the result it reaps is great (what a pleasure to have a door that doesnt creak disturbing everyone at home). 

I realized this one day when a good friend of mine mailed me after a very long period, taking me down the memory lane to the good old school days. The concluding part of the mail that said to never lose the crescent on my face under any situation made my day and i always remember it when i smile! Though we are friends through facebook and know what each is upto through the status updates, this effort made me feel that people do care and that I should do the same bringing the friendship circle closer. Its not that I dint care about the person previously but just the hesitation of what they will think after not being in touch for so long which kept me from doing so (i think allot and complicate simpler issues! ). This made me overcome my misconception and realize that its never too late for making up to people and keeping in touch again, the way we wanted to, deep in our hearts.

The one thing I learned is that people do not have the capacity to read our minds and realize what we feel about them and how much we care for them especially when each of us is living in different parts of the world. Don't wait for the other person to take an initiative because this moment will never come back again. Take the first step and express yourselves. Break the layers that have formed in the relationships in the past without staying in touch. Trust me, it helps. Even if they are busy, they will find time to respond back and the feeling is just great.

The final phases of our lives shouldn't be such that we regret having not expressed ourselves at the apt times and missed some really awesome people from our lives. Life is too short to regret and it is never too late. At the end, the gifts exchanged don't really matter. What does matter is how we made them feel. So, express what you truly feel about your friends and remind them that you do care about them, by remembering them. 

Let them know that the words 'stay in touch' uttered during the farewell days did not disappear with the wind and really do mean something valuable to you and make their day!

Life is a circle and everything happens as a chain of events one following the other. Who knows, maybe some day very soon, you will be remembered by someone whom you don't expect to be remembered by  making your day! 

I guess this feeling and flow of thoughts is due to the book 'Tuesdays with Morrie' by Mitch Albom which i read recently.

Keep smiling,

Yamini